Let’s Talk About Sex baby yeah
I’m super excited to having this interview
with Lenerd Louw,
the author of “Jump!”,
a memoir that he wrote
which uh also has a lot to do about it
sexuality
and you’re talking sexuality
and so yeah I’m very curious just to
hear your take on
um on sexuality and what we would like
to talk about today is the the
difference between men and women how
they approach sexuality I mean I think
it first starts with the bodies that are so
different. The men get aroused in
30 seconds, you know, and a woman
can take 20 minutes before
getting warmed up you know so it’s just
like a body part of the two people get
together and there’s that understanding
of that from let’s say
of this concept in
sometimes as we were talking about
earlier
um
a guy can get into the engagement and
and and maybe too fast too quick
yes so I think this is this is something
that happens quite often.
Speaking from my own experience but also when I
talk to other women that they feel quite
I wouldn’t say pressured in the
beginning but it goes in that direction
right so they’re not they’re not fully
open yet to their body they’re not fully
aroused and the man has already because
the man is aroused quite quickly and
then he comes on you know he’s
approaching the connection of the
intimacy with this very strong arousal
film and and not create some sort of
pressure on the women if her body
isn’t fully open yet
and then what I find is that my body
tends to contract because I feel like I’m
just overwhelmed by this and
by this energy coming into my
space even though I’m not ready to
receive it yet
and so what I find is essential
for me is that
like when you entering an intimate
encounter that I really just become time
and space
to
to connect with with with the man for
some like essentially not sexually but
sensually and and on a heart level
and and this then
opens up
opens up my body to be able to receive
you know the sexual energy or in general
just to move Sexual Energy you know they
thought such a big difference I think
broadly speaking with men and women you
know I always love sex mutually and both
like slow sensual love making and both
love and rubbishing I think I
think sometimes where it goes wrong
is
by the way it’s not just men women can
also have this approach you know
um and then we’d sometimes go wrong but
often it’s from a guy’s side because of
watching a lot of porn you know
um the way in the porn movie you know
it’s straight in there hard banging you
know and then the the scene starts with
that and a lot of guys get education
from that so if you’re going to be with
a woman and you know just jump in and
stop bumping away I mean it’s going to
freak that out and the body’s gonna
close down
um and it sounds pretty silly to say
that but I’ll speak to so many women
that that that’s have that experience I
mean you make sure that yeah
so uh yeah I think it’s that awareness
of
essential before sexual no beautiful
just to roll around and kiss each other
and the body contact skin contact look
before you go for genitals or breast or
anything yes and then that’s how a woman
warms up you know under the hearts and
all that you know and vice versa you
know so
um and I often believe often think it’s
if a man is
that’s quite a topic on its own but if
it’s integrated in his own masculine
feminine energy it’s going to be having
his own feminine energies then you’ll
feel the energy of the woman also better
then you can actually sense and
appreciate how much it takes for her to
surrender and to open her legs and to
surrender to be received you know that’s
that’s a lot I think that’s such an
important point that there
looks like this
there’s a lot of the time there’s
missing awareness what it means to
actually surrender right to to let
someone you know penetrate GM and that
is massive and it really needs to be at
home with you know with the sense of
honoring them surrender honoring the
feminine and also creating a safe space
where that surrender is able to happen
sure
um I remember a friend of mine that
received his first
um prostate massage and in that being
penetrated in in his anus
after that experience he said oh my God
like men should not penetrate women if
they have not been penetrated themselves
and experience what what it means to
actually be penetrated and you know
surrendering to that exactly and like
and then imagine I mean just you know
bring that into perspective for the men
like imagine you’re being penetrated in
your anus and and like this really hard
energy is coming and studies
I mean but it’s the same thing for us
it’s the same thing for for women right
it’s like okay if we’re being penetrated
we really want that there to be a lot of
you know like um
like sure
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and and and are Yoni being approached
with
with this with this awareness what it
means penetrate it and then you know
creating that space sure we feel safe to
be penetrated where we feel like okay we
can surrender and we can like go to this
to this
um man penetrating us sure yeah almost
the biggest complaint complaint or
comment from women and sexuality it
would be being penetrated too early yeah
and that’s that’s a key part you know so
I always say to the guys to people that
are my workshops who are doing one day
online Journey you know rather penetrate
lighter than earlier you know because
she’s just going to get more ready and
eventually going to almost like draw you
in and begin to penetrator you know and
of course it comes from a different
space but if you go too fast you should
close this down yes and I mean also the
the difference
I mean I speak from my my own experience
like if a woman is really at that State
where she’s like I I want to be
penetrated like which is really like
calling for it and wanting it and her
arousal and her sense of being able to
to surrender to that is been so huge
right the energy
if her system is only only halfway open
then
um yeah there might be some enjoyment
there but it doesn’t have the same
quality as this her body is fully open
and ready to fully receive the
penetration I mean it’s a huge
difference sure and isn’t it so much
nicer for for the guy isn’t it so much
nicer if you were this woman and she’s
like oh I want to penetrate then you you
know she’s waiting you go and you can
feel this passion as opposed to going in
and again you can feel the tenses of the
body that’s terrible why do you want to
even penetrate at someone like that you
know so that there’s no sense in that
you know apart from not honoring her
you’re also not honoring yourself and
it’s actually not a nice experience and
you’ve got you know if you want to
Ravish this woman or make love to her
you wanted to like want you isn’t it and
I think a big thing there is yeah take
time it’s as simple as that it’s not
about creating different buttons you
know often people say okay so what are
the buttons to press and almost any of
that a lot of courses on all the
different you know information all the
different orgasms and spots in the body
in your men and women but you know in
the innovate this if you really
be very simple about it is the biggest
thing is take to take your time
so what if when you say take your time
take on what that means like how how
does that how is that physically or like
what what sure 100 exactly did the Mandu
or else the women do you can yeah
the wood sprays you can see our body
responding you know and it’s just like
like this and you’re like the hair stuck
like that you know you’re obviously not
gonna like
just jump to the next step you can feel
them as a body opens the simple things
you know it goes back in our arms and
it’s just an openness you can feel and
sense that openness but
you have to
almost label the point you have to know
you’re in the feminine verse you know
you really feel that you have to really
know and respect women and you can only
do that if you respect your own woman
inside you you know there’s quite
another topic on that but
maybe you can talk about that later also
but that’s a big part is that the moment
you you’re aware of of that and sensing
and because it’s actually really really
obvious someone closes and they stop
reading me you know in fact they’re not
doing it they don’t open it they go
They’re risks going and their body is
like a flower woman opens like a flower
you know you can sense and feel it and
then you slowly take it from there yeah
it’s gonna
there are men are different the
government domain you’re not going to
describe the only of the you don’t
even go there you know but it’s like
almost in this bracelets and that’s a
beautiful place for heart opening
um have not given the nipples directly
you know just skin your body and then
it’ll slowly happen yeah it just takes
your time and trust your own intuition
don’t worry too much about all the all
the facts in the legal spots of legal
spots technical spots to Grace to
intuition and being feeding your
ideology and then also sensing those
yes I think that’s an important part you
mentioned like
like also also sensing the other person
like sometimes I experience it that you
know when the arousal is really high
then I’m being kind of touched with this
arousal energy right but the man isn’t
so attuned to where I’m at the moment
you know it needs that awareness also to
tune into tune into the other person
like where’s the other person at
um as well as tuning into your own
energy yeah
and I think this is really an important
Point uh
yeah that you mentioned you know for for
for men to kind of because they’re ready
much sooner that they kind of need to
contain that energy within themselves
yes until the woman is ready to receive
that energy yeah and then yeah exactly
when you can add an erection and I mean
obviously
you can have this direction
but you know it’s just illustrating
because sometimes we talk these things
people don’t understand we can still be
Central even though exactly feeling
sexual no and that is I think that is
the challenge for men because women do
need more time right sure until they’re
open so it’s actually more of a
challenge for the man to kind of contain
their sexual energy until the women can
meet them there
sexuality and as yarn is also almost
like more than good time because it’s
also celebrate and honored you know I
just throw it all out you know keep this
your energy axis that’s happening here
yes it’s this beautiful woman you
personally but it’s in your own body you
know so really feel that and since that
and experience this you know feel it in
your own body it doesn’t have to go out
and you can still have the contact with
someone you know yeah a dancing and like
you know and and that will even drive
the energy even more because now it’s
not just the visualism contact also and
close eyes and roll around and I feel
like women like if they sense that
energy Within
um you know because I feel like you can
feel that energy in a man then it
attracts them kind of uh to them as
opposed to if that energy comes out
straight away then it kind of pushes
them back that’s exactly they’re not
ready to receive it so actually it’s
like okay maintaining that energy within
yourself then you kind of calls the
woman in is that your experience that’s
what yeah that’s my experience it’s
because you are
you know the woman doesn’t feel like
you’re coming at her you know she she
feels like you’re engaging together with
her in sensuality it’s quite
different you know and it’s just play
and it’s fun and it’s also not a
destination you know it’s a journey
so it’s not about okay I’ll quickly
enter quick and I orgasm and ejaculate
it’s just like
I’m just here now and yeah with the body
contact you know and then you know and
eye contact anything you know
feeling the skin
I mean that probably helps the woman
if she’s if she feels she’s being mental
seen I mean just hearing that from you
he was like oh gosh wow I would love for
you know I mean I can imagine that
that’s a really
helps me to then be able to open up
better yeah it is good and if I feel
like I’m I’m being met and I’m being
seen where where I’m at yeah
um and then it naturally goes somewhere
the energy between the two bird people
are there the two different energies so
I can combine energy and then we’ll just
go with with the flow you don’t have to
make anything happen you know the guy
doesn’t and that’s often often also I
think that with all fairness to men you
know is that sometimes they’re expected
to now take the lead or to perform or to
achieve and so on it’s a lot of men
actually feel no okay well then but
certain way to love them you should know
but if it’s not about that and it’s
actually just relax enjoy the moment and
the combined energy will take you away
when it takes you and sometimes it will
take you to level pressure sometimes
environment it’s perfect
thank you very much beautiful beautiful
discussion about this very important
topic yes thanks Linda I hope you enjoy
this interview and yeah stay tuned
